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Post # 00000096
stepmother seeks advice on what to do about an ex-wife who is making up charges to put her in jail
From: Ron Sherman
Time: 6:28:27 PM
Remote Name: 220.127.116.11
What can a person do to stop an ex-wife from meddling into the life of the stepmother (Last changed: February 26, 2006)
Post # 0000001c
the other side
Time: 5:16:43 PM
Remote Name: 18.104.22.168
I am a step parent witnessing something very sad. My boyfriend has two toddlers. He takes both of them during the weekend. I am present for about 16 of those hours a day and there is never an ailienating word on the part of my boyfriend. i have not witnessed any behaviour from the children that she (the ex-wife) is ailienating my boyfriend.
the trouble is that it is an ordeal every time they have to go back to her house. The oldest toddler blatantly cries and screams and refuses to get in a car with her. He recognises the way if we are driving and says "I don't want to be with mommie", etc.
The youngest one has begun to exhibit the same behaviours every time he is with my boyfriend. The father has repeatedly asked for custody but the mother refuses and that is the only instance where there were symptoms of alienation. Because of this we both encourage the kids to be with her but this has only gotten worst.
The more we encourage them to be with her, the worst it gets. There is no evidence of abuse, or real neglect, but she does have a problem with spending enough time with them because she is "tired, works, and needs a break". The oldest child is in day care and the youngest stays with a nanny so all she really has to do is spend a little time with them. She does not understand the constructive criticism my boyfriend offers her but she is beginning to feel hurt by the children's reactions. Our lives are very disorganized right now and I am worried that these toddlers who need so much structure and stability right now are getting a mess. Where there used to be weekend visitations, there is a free for all depending on what she has to do that day or how much the kids are screaming for their father. Help... (Last changed: February 26, 2006 )
Post # 000000b1
Vindictive Step-Mother: False Accusations
From: Bill D.
Time: 5:22:44 PM
Remote Name: 22.214.171.124
I am the step-father to a wonderful little girl who has experienced the pain of an irresponsible father. He has repeatedly failed to follow through with visits and owes much child support. Whenever confronted by my wife about his lapses, he blames her. We have consistently accommodated him. However, he is the type that looks for ways out of his responsibilities.
Finally, my wife had enough and filed suit for failure to support his daughter. Upon receiving the court summons, his wife left a threatening message stating she would report us to the Dept. of Children and Family Services for sexual abuse. She indicated that she would not file suit if we were to dismiss our suit. Of course, these claims were false, but they hurt us deeply. My wife and I certainly would not wish to have her daughter visit now!
We contacted our lawyer, but does anyone have any advice? My step-daughter did start seeing a social worker a few months back to begin sharing the pain. Now I can only imagine how hurt she is that her father will not cooperate. She is saddened and confused by his (and her step-mother's) actions. (Last changed: February 26, 2006)
Post # 00000020
Alienation of StepChildren
Time: 9:28:36 AM
Remote Name: 126.96.36.199
My wife and I have had a relationship for 4 years and married 2 years ago. We have had difficulties over the past year and she wants a divorce. She has moved away with the children and refuses to let me have any contact with them. The children and I have bonded and had a close relationship for those years and I would really like to continue to be part of their lives. I have always had a good relationship with her ex and he has told me that he has nothing but respect for me. He has suggested that I seek legal action for visitation. I would rather that it not come to that. Does anyone have any insight as to what step parents rights are or even if I am wrong in wanting to continue the relationship with the children. (Last changed: February 26, 2006)
Post # 00000049
Re: Alienation of StepChildren
Time: 4:35:47 PM
Remote Name: 188.8.131.52
You have become an important part of those children's lives. It is painful for children to lose a parent, even a step parent. Legal action is a last resort, perhaps mediation will help.
(Last changed: February 26, 2006)
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