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Post # 00000065
I NEED HELP
From: MICHELE OFFORD
Time: 10:39:36 AM
Remote Name: 184.108.40.206
My children still talk about the times when my exboyfriend would spank them and issue corporal punishment on them in the form of forcing a 4 and 5 year old to maintain a pushup position until their legs and arms hurt. They still talk about when he slam me through the bedroom wall which created a hole that made it possible for you to see from my bedroom to their bedroom where they happened to be standing at the time oh by the way I way 6 months pregnant when that happened.
Luckily I did not lose that baby because a year earlier he forced me to an abortion. He now has custody of our 8 month old son - temporarily. My other two sons are safe with me 1300 miles away from him and living closer (within 5 minutes) from their very loving and concerned Maternal Grandparents.
I guess the reason why I am writing is because I have insomnia
and I cannot sleep anymore, I am emotional and financially drained. I am fighting in the Federal Courts to get my infant
son back and my lawyer is expensive however he is seeking damages and the restoration of my custody order which preceded
my ex boyfriends. I have an interstate custody battle. I fled from Alabama for fear of my life and my childrens life
and well being. For almost 3 years we suffered under his control. Sadly, I sometimes miss and still love him but he is
not the same man I met as friends 9 years ago. He followed me to my new home state where my parents reside and brutally
beat and attacked me. He kidnapped my infant son at 3 a.m. in the morning on June 19th, 2000. The day after Father's Day.
He wanted to see his son on Father's Day - I let him and he beat me.
My sons and a neighbor witness the attack and kidnapping. I followed the procedures the police told me that if he was not capture within 24 hours a warrant would be issued for his arrest no matter where he is and he would be picked up and I would have my son back. He drove 1300 miles without a carseat a babybag, milk, etc back to Alabama.
I went to the Domestic Abuse Center in the 2nd Judicial Court of Bernallilo County and got an order of protection and temporary physical custody of my infant son [name removed]. The order was signed by a commissioner (Nan [last name removed]) and a judge (J. [last name removed] ) and it was spelled out in plain English in the order that "law enforcement is to assist me in New Mexico and Alabama to recover my son and my property" any violation of my order of protection or neglect to assist would be punishable by a felony charge.
I flew back to Alabama and I received no assistance. In fact his family paid an attorney because he has been and still is unemployed to file for full custody by ex parte (no notice given to me) order the very next day. I found that out by going to DHR to get a pick up order for my son. The D.A. was suppose to honor my order - he didn't.
I appeared in court
the next day to everyone including the Judge's surprise (Eugene O. [last name removed] 11th Circuit Court Judge -
Jefferson County). He would not honor my order of protection and my custody order---He wouldn't even look at my police
report. I wish my story ended there but it doesn't. I was given temporary shared custody and visitation with my son until
the next day. His father was given primary residential custody in the order. I left court and called home. I caught the
next flight out in fear that my ex would attack me for showing up in Alabama by surprise. For an entire week prior to
my arrival and after he beat me I tried to call his parents and find out if they knew where he was at and how was my
son doing. They would hang up the phone on me and ask me "why are you calling?" Finally, his father broke and said if I wanted my son back I should just come back to Alabama. So I did.
By the way, the same day that I left my ex his mother
was charged with interference of custody and arrested and jailed in the Jefferson County Courthouse with a $20,000 bond, the police handed my son to me and told me to "leave and go somewhere safe because they would probably get out and look for me" - Detective I.P. [last name removed] Bessemer Police Department Division. I was later charged with interference of custody and contempt of court even though I was following the order of the New Mexico Court and his charges were up
to Parental Kidnapping because he crossed state lines. I was ordered to return to Alabama and relinquish my son. I hired an attorney in Alabama and I returned for what I thought was going to be a custody hearing. My attorney quit and put in a motion to withdraw from my case without telling me.
I showed up to court and had to hand my son over and I was handcuffed and thrown in county jail for 14 days - NO BOND. I contacted a state rep I knew from working at the University of Alabama at Birmingham and my only relative in Birmingham my aunt and they appeared in court with me. Thank God for the State Rep I was released but I still had to appear in court for the custody interference charge - 5,000 Bond. My ex boyfriend's ex wife bailed me out of jail (yeah - she suffered the same hand of abuse I did) I appeared in court and the judge refused to convict me in fact he dismissed the charge and explained why to my exboyfriend.
My new lawyer in Alabama -
Mr. Roger C. [last name removed] has filed a Federal Lawsuit Case against Judge [last name removed] and my ex boyfriend.
He is seeking $100,000 in damages for me and the restoration of my custody rights under the civil rights provision and
Full Faith Credit Act. My ex had unlawful intent and he is being charged with Parental Kidnapping USC Code in the lawsuit.
The judge has to answer to why he violated my order of protection and did not honor my custody order based on the domestic abuse I endured. My ex has a criminal domestic abuse past that I have just been made aware of when I spoke to his exwife.
He was discharged from the military early and fired from the post office because of his behavior and violent temper. I pray that I will somehow get my son back before Thanksgiving or Christmas and that my ex will pay for what he did to me and my family. I think I have paid enough for keeping myself and my family in that situation for as long as I did. I pray that my sons will be reunited they miss their baby brother everyday. They ask about him all of the time. They don't understand why "Mommy had to go to the jail when bad bad daddy James has their brother and stole my baby" What kind of impression is that on two young boys?
I pray hard and steadfastly by the bible even more so now because I know God will work through the system. I have full faith in God not in the system and that is my rock. I can lean against that when my heart hurts so much and i cant stop crying or feel the need to cry at any time. I hope my story helps someone out there. (Last changed: February 26, 2006)
Post # 000000f5
Re: I NEED HELP
From: Shelly Phillips
Time: 3:27:44 PM
Remote Name: 220.127.116.11
Ms. Offord - I am a paralegal assisting my fiance (and his attorney) with a case that is before Judge [last name removed] as well. Would you mind speaking with
me about your case? I work at a law firm in Mobile, Alabama, and I have email (email@example.com) and a toll-free telephone number [number removed]. We
are suffering extreme setbacks in dealing with Judge [last name removed] and would appreciate speaking with you. Thank you very much for considering our request. --Shelly [last name removed] (Last changed: February 26, 2006 )
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