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Post # 0000047b
Sole custodity/child support
Remote Name: 22.214.171.124
I have been trying since the time of my divorce in 1996 to maintain a positive relationship with my daughter. She lives with her Mom, who remarried around seven years ago and moved 4 hours away approx 2 years ago. I was asked by my ex to allow her to adopt my daughter and let her take on her new married name and I would no longer be expected to pay child support. It absolutely tears me apart to consider this but I am being treated more and more as an outsider and even less as a person. Is this legal? If I allow her Mom to adopt her I no longer have to pay child support and I no longer can "force" her to be with me, etc? (Last changed: February 26, 2006)
Post # 00000482
Re: Sole custodity/child support
Remote Name: 126.96.36.199
If you are determined to develop and maintain a relationship with your child do not let the step father adopt her. If you do this you are cutting all ties to your child. If your ex is not cooperative take her to court to establish a visitation plan. Four hours away is not so bad. You can ask for and may be able to get it ordered that you each meet half way to do exchanges. (Last changed: February 26, 2006 )
Post # 00000496
Re: Sole custodity/child support
Remote Name: 188.8.131.52
If you sign over parental rights you will be considered in the courts eyes, a stranger on the streets to your daughter. You will have absolutely NO rights to your daughter and you will no longer pay support or be allowed any contact with her. Just know the courts do not like to absolve a parent of their parental obligations re: child support. So, Even if you agree to this, they may not allow it. It will not be in your daughters best interest to do this, who knows what her mother will tell her if you do. You would not even be able to tell her differently, any contact you might try to get with her can be punishable by law. No matter what your ex tells you. She might say," I'll still let you call, visit, whatever." But she has no obligation to do so after the paper work is signed. She could bring charges against you if you try and contact her. Just so you don't go into this blindly. I hope this helps. (Last changed: February 26, 2006)
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