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Post # 0000005c
Child custody and allegations of domestic violence
Time: 5:28:12 PM
Remote Name: 18.104.22.168
My wife claimed domestic violence, pulled out some hair, called the cops, and asked for a restraining order and a criminal charge. In New Jersey, any woman can cry and say "I am scared of this guy" and the family court will rule against the person.
In my case the charge was "domineering". I had been asking her not to take the two kids (Ages 13, boy and 8, girl) to pray to a person whom she claims is a god, and I have asked her to bring her mother to our house only in the presence of her mother's brother because the mother is the one encouraging the kids to believe in this person as a god (the brother is sane).
[The mother] does not want this, hence she pulled out some hair, cried and shivered and showed fear and had me handcuffed. There were no weapons, drugs or alcohol involved in my case. The wife admits that there has never been a visible sign of injury.
She really took this action because she is unhappy about me not liking her family and her religious beliefs.
Immediately, I have been thrown out of our house (I was given one 20 minute visit to collect all my belongings and never to visit the place again). The wife also asked that I never call her or talk to her.
I was told to pay child support, and given visitation of our kids alternate weekends, and two evenings alternate weeks on Tuesday and Thursday. Figure out how such visitations can be arranged without involving a third person every time. (Last changed: February 26, 2006)
Post # 00000062
Re: Child custody and allegations of domestic violence
Time: 3:59:08 AM
Remote Name: 22.214.171.124
I am really sorry to hear about your situation. It makes me mad no ANGRY that your wife used a domestic abuse claim to alienate you from your children.
I am a victim of domestic abuse and I am currently fighting for custody of my infant son whom my ex kidnapped from me and took him back to his home state 1300 miles away. I got the protection order of course because of the beating I got from him and I got temporary physical custody of my son in my home state and in the state he took him to. I also got a 2 week jail sentence for following my custody court order and taking my son back to my home with me.
I have an attorney who is suing for restoration of my custody rights since his father never received custody and we are suing the circuit judge for violating my civil rights. I haven't seen my son in two months. I left an abusive relationship so that I could live...
My advise [sic=advice] to you is get a lawyer. The court room is made for men and you will probably take her through the same living hell she is taking you through or try being a mature adult and seek an Adult Dispute Resolution through your local Domestic Relations Division Courthouse. (Last changed: February 26, 2006 )
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