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Post # 0000045b
False Claims of Domestic Violence
Remote Name: 220.127.116.11
I am sitting here and still have not seen my two sons in over 11 months. My wife has always got mad at me and would just 'up and go' to her mothers with my boy's everytime there was a problem. (One time she took an assault warrant out on me because I took the keys to the car out of her hand when she was going to leave with the kids again- "over a credit card bill") I have just dealt with this over the years to keep us together knowing that she would try to keep the kids from me. She finally did it! One March morning of 2003, I woke up, got the boys ready, fixed their breakfast and sent them off to school. I have not seen or heard from them since! I recieved an ex-parte that day saying that I had abused her over the last year. Ten days later in court, she lied about any and everything and the Judge believed her instead of me so he gave her a one year restraining order against me. (No decision was made about custody of the boys.) Afterwards, I contacted my sons school to eat lunch with him, but day after day he was not there. I have tried to find her location to proceed with custody proceedings, but every gov. organization will not help me thinking that I am some "monster". I obtained Exclusive Temporary Custody in July of 2003, but again I am unable to get any assistance in enforcing the order becuase she is "hiding from me" and law enforcement doesn't think that they are in danger with their mother. I can only wonder what my boys, 13 & 11, are having to go through and what she must be saying about me to them. (God help us!) (Last changed: February 26, 2006)
Post # 000004c2
Re: False Claims of Domestic Violence
Remote Name: 18.104.22.168
Find a private investigator and after you find their wherabouts. Have the police enforce your order. They will take the children from her and give them to you. If you do not know where they are, the police can do nothing. They will not look for them for you. I can only hope they are still in the same state. You need to take your court order to the PI and tell him your story, it will help in aiding him to know your intentions are good. Some PI's will think your up to no good without it and not take your case. There have been many a man trying to find a woman with evil intentions. If you can find what school they attend, it would be best to have them removed by police from there, it will save a tearful event of being taken from their mother. The last thing you want is to upset them more than necessary. I hope this helps. (Last changed: February 26, 2006 )
Post # 00000525
Re: False Claims of Domestic Violence
Remote Name: 22.214.171.124
I read your posting and it made me cry. I have been where your boys are now. My parents seperated when I was nine years old. My mother took us to the babysitters on the last day of school (instead of sending us to school). She then went home and loaded up the car with everything she could fit in her little Datsun B210. Anyway, she soon returned to the sitters house (who was also her best friend). I saw my mother pull into the driveway with a car full of stuff. I was puzzled. My younger brother (four years younger) really didn't notice. He was too busy playing. Soon my mother loaded us into the car and headed off for a secluded farm that her friend had arranged for us to stay at. From what I know my mother could not leave the state with us because she would be "kidnapping" us. Rather, she had to stay in the state until she won approval in court to take us across the boarder to PA. We lived in NY at the time. We stayed at this farm for most of the summer. I really missed my father a lot. In fact, one morning I called him when nobody was around. The problem is that I didn't know where we were so he couldn't find us. That was horrible. I never got the opportunity to call again. In August my mother took us across the boarder to meet her brother who then took us to a great aunt's house over two hours away. We stayed there until it was time to go to school. My great aunt was wonderful and I will forever be indebted to her for that. My brother and I did not see our father until Christmas day of that year. We went for six months without seeing our father. We saw him for a few hours and then we had to go back to our mother. We didn't see him again for months. This is only one of the two times our mother did this to us. You are probably wondering why I took the time to tell you my story. I did because I want you to know that your kids are out there and they do love you. They think about you and how you are fairing. I know because I have been there. If you love your kids, and I think you really do. You must fight for them. The damage is already done to your children. The most important thing for you to do is get them back and get all of you into counseling with a good therapist who understands parent alienation syndrome. I wish my parents had done this for my brother and I. If they had, we would not have had to go through such personal pain in our lives. I am thirty-four years old and this story still makes me cry. I wish you all the luck in the world. I wish you luck. (Last changed: February 26, 2006)
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